...but it won't eliminate my fear.
Disclaimer: This will be controversial. I'm not sure anyone will understand, and I'm sure someone will blast me for this outlook. But it's my opinion and I'm choosing to share.
Let me begin by saying I support gay rights. I believe whole-heartedly that you should have every opportunity to love whoever you choose, and your rights and life experiences should not be limited just because of your or your partner's gender (or gender identification for that matter.) I've fought so many people on this outlook, who choose to be very close-minded, and stood by my values. I want to raise my children to be very accepting and very non-judgmental on race, sexual orientation, or gender. I want them to grow up and treat people based on their personality and the fact that they are a human being and deserve all the respect my children would want someone to treat them with.
But I fear my sons growing up gay or transgendered. Not because I wouldn't accept them, because I would still support them and not love them any less. Not because I would turn my back on them, or try to convince them that it's wrong because it wouldn't even cross my mind. But I fear it because I fear the world they'll go into is still learning to be accepting. I fear they'll have a hard life. And no mother ever wishes a difficult life on their children. We want it to be easy, to be happy, to be free.
Right now they're three years old and 7 months old. Neither Nugget knows a thing about sexuality, and the only think apparent to them, is that they are loved for exactly who they are. And I want to keep them from anything else, from any negativity of the world that could break their heart -- or worse, their spirit.
So yes I'm scared. I'm scared the word is still too harsh and too unaccepting for my children to be who they are meant to be, no matter what that entails.
Disclaimer: This will be controversial. I'm not sure anyone will understand, and I'm sure someone will blast me for this outlook. But it's my opinion and I'm choosing to share.
Let me begin by saying I support gay rights. I believe whole-heartedly that you should have every opportunity to love whoever you choose, and your rights and life experiences should not be limited just because of your or your partner's gender (or gender identification for that matter.) I've fought so many people on this outlook, who choose to be very close-minded, and stood by my values. I want to raise my children to be very accepting and very non-judgmental on race, sexual orientation, or gender. I want them to grow up and treat people based on their personality and the fact that they are a human being and deserve all the respect my children would want someone to treat them with.
But I fear my sons growing up gay or transgendered. Not because I wouldn't accept them, because I would still support them and not love them any less. Not because I would turn my back on them, or try to convince them that it's wrong because it wouldn't even cross my mind. But I fear it because I fear the world they'll go into is still learning to be accepting. I fear they'll have a hard life. And no mother ever wishes a difficult life on their children. We want it to be easy, to be happy, to be free.
Right now they're three years old and 7 months old. Neither Nugget knows a thing about sexuality, and the only think apparent to them, is that they are loved for exactly who they are. And I want to keep them from anything else, from any negativity of the world that could break their heart -- or worse, their spirit.
So yes I'm scared. I'm scared the word is still too harsh and too unaccepting for my children to be who they are meant to be, no matter what that entails.
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